Polyamory is not automatically “better” than monogamy. It is just a different relationship style that suits some people’s needs “better.”
It’s not a question of “better.” Polyamory is breaking free of the assumed monogamish assumption. Polamory opens up discussions about values, capacity, and what works for a set of people.
Books by Liz Ellyn where polyamory is challenged:
Overruling Judgment
Defending Engagement
Family gatherings on holidays or other celebrations can be a complicated mess for people in any kind of relationship. Making wild assumptions about someone’s plans is absurd. When closed-minded people label someone’s choices as “shame,” all they’re really doing is revealing their own ignorance.
Polyamorous Romance by Liz Ellyn:
Overruling Judgment MFM
Defending Engagement MFM
Willful Parties MMF
Polyamory is a concept that includes many variations of relationships involving more than two people.
Choosing appropriate terms within polyamory is important as language shapes understanding.
Why Choose is more intended to be used as a trope in fiction
Sometimes an author can incorporate both polyamory and why choose in a single novel/series.
Check out these books by Liz Ellyn
Overruling Judgment
Defending Engagement
Willful Parties
Monogamy doesn’t eliminate jealousy.
Critics of polyamory often claim jealousy dooms the relationships, but jealousy shows up in all relationship styles.
Most jealousy stems from insecurity, unmet needs, comparison, or fear of loss.
Whether in monogamy or polyamory, the root lies within us, not the structure of the relationship.
It’s not about saying one model is better than another. It’s about encouraging a mindset that focuses on being curious, embracing discomfort, confronting assumptions, and investing time and effort. One of the most powerful lessons of polyamory is the dedication to honest self-analysis and open communication. That’s what really sustains love.
If monogamous people spent more time on improving their relationships than bashing the concept of polyamory, divorce rates in the US might not be 40-50%.
Polyamory thrives on clear communication, trust, and healthy boundaries.
The truth is, most people exploring polyamory know from the start that communication is the glue holding it all together. Every relationship, polyamorous or monogamous, deserves respect, openness, and care. However, in polyamory, there is intentionality when it comes to communication so that love can expand without confusion.
Polyamory comes in all different variations
Polyamory lets people shape relationships around individual needs and desires instead of forcing everyone into a single mold.
Love that honors individual needs is more fulfilling than love that only serves others’ expectations.
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