Addressing Common Opposition to Polyamory

January 24, 2026 lizellyn Romance, Uncategorized #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #PolyLove

Let’s address the opposition to Polyamory

Jealousy: jealousy happens in all relationships. I’ve discussed this in many posts. It’s about how you deal with it that is important.

Stability: 40% of all marriages end in divorce. It is a lot of pressure to expect one person to suit all of your physical, emotional, and intellectual needs for an entire lifetime.

Cultural Norms: Why must people yuck others’ yum?

Ethical Doubts: 65% of people cheat at least once. Marriage isn’t a shield against cheating. And open relationships are not a form of cheating.

Practical Hurdles: All relationships face challenges. Those challenges aren’t the same for every couple, regardless of the type of dynamic.

Is Polyamory Better?

December 6, 2025 lizellyn Romance #boundaries, #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #relationships, #respect

Polyamory is not automatically “better” than monogamy. It is just a different relationship style that suits some people’s needs “better.”

It’s not a question of “better.” Polyamory is breaking free of the assumed monogamish assumption. Polamory opens up discussions about values, capacity, and what works for a set of people.

Books by Liz Ellyn where polyamory is challenged:
Overruling Judgment
Defending Engagement

Polyamory – don’t make foolish assumptions

November 29, 2025 lizellyn Romance #boundaries, #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #relationships, #respect

Family gatherings on holidays or other celebrations can be a complicated mess for people in any kind of relationship. Making wild assumptions about someone’s plans is absurd. When closed-minded people label someone’s choices as “shame,” all they’re really doing is revealing their own ignorance.

Polyamorous Romance by Liz Ellyn:
Overruling Judgment MFM
Defending Engagement MFM
Willful Parties MMF

Unlearn Jealousy

November 15, 2025 lizellyn Romance #EthicalNonMonogamy, #Monogamish, #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #RelationshipAnarchy

A common misconception is that jealousy is a litmus test of whether or not a person cares deeply for someone else.

Compersion is the feeling of seeing your partner happy and content.

Choosing compersion over control seems like a kinder and healthier option.

Liz Ellyn’s Romance Novels with Real Polyamory:
Overruling Judgment MFM
Defending Engagement MFM
Willful Parties MMF

Award Winning Polyamory Romance

November 13, 2025 lizellyn Liz Ellyn Books #EthicalNonMonogamy, #NationalBookAwardWeek, #Nonmonogomy, #RelationshipAnarchy, #whychoose

Polyamorous romances with all the drama of a traditional love story, loaded with spicy scenes, and topped with a ton of complexity to make it all the more interesting.

Liz Ellyn’s writing blends sizzling romance with an honest portrayal of consent, boundaries, and ongoing negotiation that parallels real-life polyamorous experiences.

Award Winning Romance by Liz Ellyn

Bold Polyamory: Unapologetic Love Stories

Overruling Judgement (MFM)
Defending Engagement (MFM)
Willful Parties (MMF)

Comparing Jealousy: Polyamory vs. Monogamy

November 8, 2025 lizellyn Romance #EthicalNonMonogamy, #Monogamish, #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #RelationshipAnarchy

One of the most common questions asked about polyamorous relationships is about the issue of jealousy. Don’t polyamorous people get jealous? Yes, they do.

But jealousy also exists in monogamous relationships. In fact, it occurs more often in monogamous relationships than polyamorous ones.

Jealousy is actually more destructive in monogamous relationships than polyamorous ones.

Looking for more love, more drama, and more partners in romance novels? Check out these polyamorous novels:

Polyamorous romance books by Liz Ellyn:
Overruling Judgment
Defending Engagement
Willful Parties

Understanding Different Styles of Polyamory

October 18, 2025 lizellyn Romance #EthicalNonMonogamy, #Monogamish, #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #RelationshipAnarchy

Styles of Polyamory

Polyamory: Multiple loving partners. Everyone knows and consents.

Ethical non-monogamy: Any consensual non-exclusive relationship.

Open relationship: Couple allows outside s-xual partners, often remains emotionally exclusive.

Monogamish: Mostly monogamous, occasional outside s-xual partners.

Polyfidelity: Exclusive commitment within a group. Faithful to several, closed to others.

Relationship Anarchy: No hierarchy, rules, or labels. Values individual freedom.

Solo polyamory: Polyamorous, no primary partner, values independence.

Polyamorous romance books by Liz Ellyn:
Overruling Judgment
Defending Engagement
Willful Parties

Is Polyamory the same as Why Choose?

October 11, 2025 lizellyn Romance #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #PolyLove, #relationships, #romancenovels

Polyamory is a concept that includes many variations of relationships involving more than two people.

Choosing appropriate terms within polyamory is important as language shapes understanding.

Why Choose is more intended to be used as a trope in fiction

Sometimes an author can incorporate both polyamory and why choose in a single novel/series.

Check out these books by Liz Ellyn
Overruling Judgment
Defending Engagement
Willful Parties

Understanding Polyamory vs. Reverse Harem: Key Differences

September 27, 2025 lizellyn Romance #loveislove, #LoveWithoutLimits, #Nonmonogomy, #Polaymory, #ReverseHarem

While polyamory is gaining acceptance, it’s still often misunderstood. People sometimes confuse it with the playful, fantasy-driven reverse harem trope in romance books. That mix-up can make real polyamory seem more taboo than it truly is.

I prefer to write about real polyamory in my romance novels.

Polyamory isn’t the cause of jealousy

September 20, 2025 lizellyn Romance #LoveWithoutLimits, #Nonmonogomy, #Polaymory, #PolyLove, #relationships

Monogamy doesn’t eliminate jealousy.

Critics of polyamory often claim jealousy dooms the relationships, but jealousy shows up in all relationship styles.

Most jealousy stems from insecurity, unmet needs, comparison, or fear of loss.

Whether in monogamy or polyamory, the root lies within us, not the structure of the relationship.