Understanding Different Styles of Polyamory

October 18, 2025 lizellyn Romance #EthicalNonMonogamy, #Monogamish, #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #RelationshipAnarchy

Styles of Polyamory

Polyamory: Multiple loving partners. Everyone knows and consents.

Ethical non-monogamy: Any consensual non-exclusive relationship.

Open relationship: Couple allows outside s-xual partners, often remains emotionally exclusive.

Monogamish: Mostly monogamous, occasional outside s-xual partners.

Polyfidelity: Exclusive commitment within a group. Faithful to several, closed to others.

Relationship Anarchy: No hierarchy, rules, or labels. Values individual freedom.

Solo polyamory: Polyamorous, no primary partner, values independence.

Polyamorous romance books by Liz Ellyn:
Overruling Judgment
Defending Engagement
Willful Parties

Is Polyamory the same as Why Choose?

October 11, 2025 lizellyn Romance #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #PolyLove, #relationships, #romancenovels

Polyamory is a concept that includes many variations of relationships involving more than two people.

Choosing appropriate terms within polyamory is important as language shapes understanding.

Why Choose is more intended to be used as a trope in fiction

Sometimes an author can incorporate both polyamory and why choose in a single novel/series.

Check out these books by Liz Ellyn
Overruling Judgment
Defending Engagement
Willful Parties

Understanding Polyamory vs. Reverse Harem: Key Differences

September 27, 2025 lizellyn Romance #loveislove, #LoveWithoutLimits, #Nonmonogomy, #Polaymory, #ReverseHarem

While polyamory is gaining acceptance, it’s still often misunderstood. People sometimes confuse it with the playful, fantasy-driven reverse harem trope in romance books. That mix-up can make real polyamory seem more taboo than it truly is.

I prefer to write about real polyamory in my romance novels.

Polyamory isn’t the cause of jealousy

September 20, 2025 lizellyn Romance #LoveWithoutLimits, #Nonmonogomy, #Polaymory, #PolyLove, #relationships

Monogamy doesn’t eliminate jealousy.

Critics of polyamory often claim jealousy dooms the relationships, but jealousy shows up in all relationship styles.

Most jealousy stems from insecurity, unmet needs, comparison, or fear of loss.

Whether in monogamy or polyamory, the root lies within us, not the structure of the relationship.

Lessons to Learn from Polyamory

September 13, 2025September 13, 2025 lizellyn Romance #Nonmonogomy, #Polaymory, #polyamorous, #PolyLove, #relationships

It’s not about saying one model is better than another. It’s about encouraging a mindset that focuses on being curious, embracing discomfort, confronting assumptions, and investing time and effort. One of the most powerful lessons of polyamory is the dedication to honest self-analysis and open communication. That’s what really sustains love.

If monogamous people spent more time on improving their relationships than bashing the concept of polyamory, divorce rates in the US might not be 40-50%.

Is Polyamory morally wrong?

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Hot Take: Jealousy Exists In Polyamory

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Polyamory Boundaries

August 23, 2025 lizellyn Romance #LoveWithoutLimits, #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #PolyLove, #relationships

Polyamory thrives on clear communication, trust, and healthy boundaries.

The truth is, most people exploring polyamory know from the start that communication is the glue holding it all together. Every relationship, polyamorous or monogamous, deserves respect, openness, and care. However, in polyamory, there is intentionality when it comes to communication so that love can expand without confusion.