Addressing Common Opposition to Polyamory

January 24, 2026 lizellyn Romance, Uncategorized #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #PolyLove

Let’s address the opposition to Polyamory

Jealousy: jealousy happens in all relationships. I’ve discussed this in many posts. It’s about how you deal with it that is important.

Stability: 40% of all marriages end in divorce. It is a lot of pressure to expect one person to suit all of your physical, emotional, and intellectual needs for an entire lifetime.

Cultural Norms: Why must people yuck others’ yum?

Ethical Doubts: 65% of people cheat at least once. Marriage isn’t a shield against cheating. And open relationships are not a form of cheating.

Practical Hurdles: All relationships face challenges. Those challenges aren’t the same for every couple, regardless of the type of dynamic.

Normalize Sharing Feelings

January 17, 2026 lizellyn Romance #HealthyLife, #polyamorous, #relationships

Sharing feelings, particularly when one might feel shame, is not easy.
But doing the hard thing often has better results

Jealousy can occur in any type of relationship, but it is often an issue discussed in polyamorous relationships.

Exploring Polyamory in Romance Novels
Overruling Judgment
Defending Engagement
Willful Parties

The Psychology of Jealousy: Cognitive vs. Emotional Insights

January 10, 2026 lizellyn Romance #humanbehavior, #polyamorous, #romanceauthor

Jealousy is a topic that I find intriguing in romantic relationships.

While doing research as an author, I recently came across this differentiation between cognitive and emotional jealousy. This would be a great concept to explore while developing the motivation behind characters’ motivations.

Understanding Jealousy and Compersion in Polyamory

January 3, 2026 lizellyn Romance, Uncategorized

While many people talk about the goal of compersion in polyamory, it is very natural for feelings of jealousy to arise.

Both emotions can occur simultaneously.

Jealousy doesn’t mean that polyamory is failing. The key is to communicate openly about it and address the underlying triggers through self-reflection.

Compersion is a bonus in polyamory, not a requirement.

Polyamory thrives on consent, communication, and mutual respect, not specific feelings.

An Acostic Polyamory Poem

Image December 27, 2025 lizellyn Romance #EthicalNonMonogamy, #love, #polyamory, #relationships, #respect, #romanceauthor

Is Polyamory Better?

December 6, 2025 lizellyn Romance #boundaries, #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #relationships, #respect

Polyamory is not automatically “better” than monogamy. It is just a different relationship style that suits some people’s needs “better.”

It’s not a question of “better.” Polyamory is breaking free of the assumed monogamish assumption. Polamory opens up discussions about values, capacity, and what works for a set of people.

Books by Liz Ellyn where polyamory is challenged:
Overruling Judgment
Defending Engagement

Polyamory – don’t make foolish assumptions

November 29, 2025 lizellyn Romance #boundaries, #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #relationships, #respect

Family gatherings on holidays or other celebrations can be a complicated mess for people in any kind of relationship. Making wild assumptions about someone’s plans is absurd. When closed-minded people label someone’s choices as “shame,” all they’re really doing is revealing their own ignorance.

Polyamorous Romance by Liz Ellyn:
Overruling Judgment MFM
Defending Engagement MFM
Willful Parties MMF

Unlearn Jealousy

November 15, 2025 lizellyn Romance #EthicalNonMonogamy, #Monogamish, #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #RelationshipAnarchy

A common misconception is that jealousy is a litmus test of whether or not a person cares deeply for someone else.

Compersion is the feeling of seeing your partner happy and content.

Choosing compersion over control seems like a kinder and healthier option.

Liz Ellyn’s Romance Novels with Real Polyamory:
Overruling Judgment MFM
Defending Engagement MFM
Willful Parties MMF

Comparing Jealousy: Polyamory vs. Monogamy

November 8, 2025 lizellyn Romance #EthicalNonMonogamy, #Monogamish, #Nonmonogomy, #polyamory, #RelationshipAnarchy

One of the most common questions asked about polyamorous relationships is about the issue of jealousy. Don’t polyamorous people get jealous? Yes, they do.

But jealousy also exists in monogamous relationships. In fact, it occurs more often in monogamous relationships than polyamorous ones.

Jealousy is actually more destructive in monogamous relationships than polyamorous ones.

Looking for more love, more drama, and more partners in romance novels? Check out these polyamorous novels:

Polyamorous romance books by Liz Ellyn:
Overruling Judgment
Defending Engagement
Willful Parties

Exploring Polyamory in Romance Novels

October 25, 2025 lizellyn Romance, Uncategorized #IndieAuthor, #LoveBeyondLimits, #polyamoryromance, #romancereaders, #whychoose

Looking for polyamory in your romance novels? Just looking for something new? Polyamory romances go deeper than “boy meets girl.” They explore connection in its boldest form, layered emotions, honest communication, and the kind of love that expands instead of divides.

If you’re ready for characters who grow, collide, and choose each other in beautiful, unexpected ways… these books are for you.

Polyamorous romance books by Liz Ellyn:
Overruling Judgment
Defending Engagement
Willful Parties