Addressing Common Opposition to Polyamory
Let’s address the opposition to Polyamory
Jealousy: jealousy happens in all relationships. I’ve discussed this in many posts. It’s about how you deal with it that is important.
Stability: 40% of all marriages end in divorce. It is a lot of pressure to expect one person to suit all of your physical, emotional, and intellectual needs for an entire lifetime.
Cultural Norms: Why must people yuck others’ yum?
Ethical Doubts: 65% of people cheat at least once. Marriage isn’t a shield against cheating. And open relationships are not a form of cheating.
Practical Hurdles: All relationships face challenges. Those challenges aren’t the same for every couple, regardless of the type of dynamic.
Counting Spicy Scenes: A Unique Look at Romance
When someone actually counts the spicy scenes
Huge Shout Out to Erika @thesmutfiles for reading and meticulously cataloging all the fun scenes in:
📚 Overruling Judgment
📚 Defending Engagement
📚 Willful Parties
🔥 Final Tally: 40 intimate scenes
🌶️ 23 different flavors of intimacy
Because polyamorous romance is never boring
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Normalize Sharing Feelings
Sharing feelings, particularly when one might feel shame, is not easy.
But doing the hard thing often has better results
Jealousy can occur in any type of relationship, but it is often an issue discussed in polyamorous relationships.
Exploring Polyamory in Romance Novels
Overruling Judgment
Defending Engagement
Willful Parties
The Psychology of Jealousy: Cognitive vs. Emotional Insights
Jealousy is a topic that I find intriguing in romantic relationships.
While doing research as an author, I recently came across this differentiation between cognitive and emotional jealousy. This would be a great concept to explore while developing the motivation behind characters’ motivations.
Romance Books to keep you warm on cold winter days
December 2025 – Romance to keep you warm in the winter. Works better than hot cocoa.
The Long Game by Rachel Reid
Long Game is the continuation of Shane & Ilya’s story. I’m reading this series out of order per the suggestions of other bookstagrammers and TikTokers. And because I couldn’t wait to get the ending of Shane and Ilya’s story.
Silver Fox’s Secret by Ovni Michaels
First time reading a book by this author. The author possesses an exceptional talent for words. I plan to read many more by this author.
Writing Mr. Wrong by Kelley Armstrong
Romance author and hockey player – great start. Knew each other since kindergarten, but kissed in high school, which went sideways.
Gifting Me To His Best Friend by Katee Robert
Ummm. Yes! Title says it all. What a wonderful Christmas gift.
My Roommate Is a Vampire by Jenna Levine
Book recommendation by many in my book club. Goofy and light. It was a nice break from all the seriousness.
The Naughty List by Jade West
Okay. Whoa. Stop the train. Pure Erotica.
Before We Came by Sloane St. James
Love Unwritten by Lauren Asher
Love Redesigned by Lauren Asher
Deviant Hearts by Jagger Cole
??? Have you hopped on the Heated Riverly train? If not, what are you reading?
Understanding Jealousy and Compersion in Polyamory
While many people talk about the goal of compersion in polyamory, it is very natural for feelings of jealousy to arise.
Both emotions can occur simultaneously.
Jealousy doesn’t mean that polyamory is failing. The key is to communicate openly about it and address the underlying triggers through self-reflection.
Compersion is a bonus in polyamory, not a requirement.
Polyamory thrives on consent, communication, and mutual respect, not specific feelings.
Indulge in Life's Guilty Pleasures 